Dating someone in a relationship
There may be instances in which you are nearly discovered and find yourself in a panic.
Your relationship will always have an undercurrent of fear while you are still closeted.
You may not get to meet family or church friends; your partner may lie about you to others.
He was fully out when we first started dating, and although I was out, my sexuality wasn’t information I had offered up to certain circles of my life (I call this “closeted by omission”).Discuss questions such as: When will the closeted partner come out? What people or life situations are keeping the closeted partner from coming out, and how can they be resolved?What small steps toward disclosure can you make together (close friends, a trusted family member, etc.)?Guarding their secret takes precedence over your relationship.Conversely, if you’re the one closeted, your partner will probably begin tugging at you, urging you to be more open.
I touched upon this conflict earlier in a post about the difficulty of LGBTQ Christian dating.